As far as I remember, compassion has never been considered cool. In the process of growing up, I always feel a sense of pride from my peers. As I grow older, the more I think it will become a bigger monster, shouldn't it be the opposite?

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I used to attribute it to sensitivity, but now that I'm older, a bigger problem comes to mind, and Netflix colleagues and the original author Jay Asher talk about it in a new series of revelations, 13 reasons: the way we treat each other needs to change. If you're not addicted to the series, 13 reasons are Hannah Baker's story, or rather her suicide at the age of 17. When his friend clay Jensen listened to Hannah's tape, he explained 13 reasons for her suicide - all related to the person who ultimately forced her to make a decision. But that's the problem: it all comes down to our decision. We all create them, but we never think about how our actions affect others. When tragedy happens, no one is willing to accept the fact that their dark behavior will cause others' pain. For those who can't face the consequences of their actions, the most common excuse is that another person just wants to be noticed. What they seek is not attention, but to be treated respectfully as a person. The more I get into this series, the more I think about my high school life, the more I start to feel a lump in my throat. I found myself connected with Hannah's story and her pain, as if it were my own. I also often think that suicide was my only choice at that time, because I felt misunderstood, like a nuisance to everyone around me. I remember clearly, when I was shouting for help inside, I looked down at the people who I thought were friends and laughed at me. Like Hannah, it's one thing. The heavier my chest is, the more I know I can't stand life anymore. People began to attack my character. I obviously need a friend, but people call me in a dramatic way, which makes me believe that sad girls should not be human. I need someone to listen, not to speak. High school is hard enough. No one you think is your friend will drag you into the water when you need them most. Everyone tends to make judgments about people they don't know at all. The more people hide behind their friends & the masks they make, the more difficult it is to see who our real peers are. The sad thing is, even at the age of 29, I don't think everything has changed. Everyone is still hiding. Everyone acts like the same age. It's frustrating, it needs to change. I hope I had 13 reasons when I was in high school so that I could have an open conversation about depression and anxiety. Instead of making children feel that they have problems, it's better to have a dialogue according to the problems of our society and how we treat people. Some children are going through what these characters are going through, they don't know how to help, or they have helped, but they feel overreacted, or they are told not to be so dramatic. They think they did it all by themselves. In fact, some signs of suicide are in front of us, but people tend to look at each other differently because it makes them uncomfortable. But what happens if these kids actually commit suicide because they feel like they've never been important or popular in their lives? The way we treat others can be seen as a two-way chain reaction. In Hannah's case, constant bullying, apathy and lack of compassion can lead to the worst, while the simplest love and friendship can change everything and save lives - you'll see clay fighting it. I long for one day, when children go to school, they feel safe and concerned, not like a boxing bag. I long for one day we can coexist in the same society, although we have differences. It all starts with a choice; a choice that shows confidence and responsibility for your actions. What choice would you make?

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